The Ties That Bind By Angie Skelhorn

I am the image of a witch, surrounded by open pastures, on a hilltop near a forest and wildlife, close to the people who care about my well-being. Although I am doing my own thing, I'm still influenced by male energy.

Once a week my kitchen becomes the meeting place for a handful of my male friends. Three of them work in a factory and two are farm hands. During our visits joys, problems and emotional hiccups are discussed. When something in my home needs maintenance each will come to my aid. The job may not be fixed on my time line, but it will be completed. These men have strength, will and determination to get things done. The first is to protect me at the sight of a storm. Their wives or girlfriends are not threatened by our friendship. I'm sure they kept their eyes and ears open when I first came on the scene. I don't give them a reason to mistrust my intentions.

It's hard to entrust ones self to another and stand firm in the bond we create. To truly believe someone will protect rather than harm. My male friends taught me a man will show his heart by his words mirroring his deeds and stand with both feet planted.

We all have the opportunity to meet people. Some will become partners, a memory, or a true friend. Not all people, male or female are compatible. With a perspective mate, the mind has the power to conjure that which the heart craves. We can program ourselves to think someone is perfect. The compassion from the heart makes excuses to accept someone’s negative words and deeds. To feel pain in a relationship is a blessing in disguise. The disagreeable stimuli act as a trigger to recognize danger. The sensation helps to identify harm. The union isn't going to be what you expect it to be.

If you pursue someone for material or personal security, you already know the outcome. The heart will crave love; imaginary or real, the heart will crave love. To be in love is the very essence of magic. To be in a comfortable inspiring emotion that will make you vulnerable and want to give with one expectation, to see the other person smile. When there is no mutual agreement expressed the emotion could become a hindrance and very detrimental to ones self. When the relationship goes wrong, everything goes wrong.

People screw up. It is what we do best. Give someone the time to be your friend. Commit to knowing each other. Set your standards- acceptable and non acceptable behavior in your personal space. Instant gratification is here today, gone tomorrow.

A man is motivated by thought and appreciation. He thinks and then does with action expected- the acknowledgement of gratitude for the action. A woman is motivated by her emotions and then she acts. Most women are nurtures with mothering tendencies. With this quality women may attract needy men, because they can see the strength. The way you wish someone to act may not be who they are. For every bad thing that happens, a good thing will happen. We have all been lucky in love. Even the heartbreak was worth the experience. The breakup said he or she wasn't the missing piece to your puzzle. There is a better person more suited; someone who will see you for you.

Try to choose a deserving consort worthy of your intimate love. One who will respect your individuality, family, and friends, honoring the union, enjoying the love that can be shared by two opposites who understand the complexity of the differences. In a committed union two individuals join by attraction, while attempting to understand the others needs, and each make personal adjustments. Both create a stable and secure atmosphere on the physical level. On the emotional level each value and respect as much as themselves.

Your partner and friends are a reflection of who you are. With this knowledge be inspired to be the best you and that may draw others and bring benefit to you and to them.

Angie Skelhorn's website http://witchskel.weebly.com